Believe it or not, there’s a whole lot more to me than what you see on here on the blog, on Twitter or on Facebook.
Over the past year or so, I’ve come across people on Twitter who seem to think that this is all I do. They seem to think that I spend 24 hours a day thinking/complaining/whining about being single and fantasising about how to meet Mr Right. But hey, guess what? I really don’t.
Trying to find love is just one of many things I juggle...
Just because you see me tweet or blog about these things, please don’t get it twisted and think that in my everyday life I have a ‘woe-is-me’ attitude and can’t focus on anything else other than the fact I am single.
I’ve had strangers on Twitter tell me that the reason I am single is because I write about it all of the time and that maybe if I don’t want to be single, I should shift my focus. Well, I should point out to those people that I have been blogging (on and off) for under two years now whereas I’ve been single for a whoooole lot longer that that… so err, NO.
The beginning of 2011 was blog-tastic!
As far as blogging goes, 2011 has been a funny old year for me. It got off to a very strong start, with me making a list of dating-related new year resolutions and then getting stuck straight in by going to a singles party, signing up for a dating boot camp weekend and then inviting my international blogging buddies to help me celebrate the site’s one year anniversary with a week long series of guest posts.
However, a violently strong love-hate relationship with online dating was spurred on by the idiots on Plenty of Fish and having to spend money on sites that couldn’t guarantee even one date. That, along with the fact I had dates with a weird stalker type, a guy who nearly proposed on the first date (well not really, but kinda) and a guy who seemed lovely and keen before flaking out on me after two really good dates, made me feel that my dating life had pretty much gone to pot.
If like me, you are spending yet another Christmas as a singleton, take solace in knowing that there are actually lots of positives to what many smug marrieds look upon as being some sort of seriously pitiful affliction. It’s fine smuggies, no need to feel sorry for us, we’re doing a-ok. In fact, feel free to take a look at what makes being single over the festive season a pretty damn good thing:
We don’t have the added stress of worrying what to buy for our ‘other half’
As if buying presents for family wasn’t already demanding enough, having to pour over what would be the ideal present for someone you’ve only been dating for a short while is extremely painful. Cue the whole “but if I buy him this, he’ll think I’m being too serious”, “what’s the reasonable about to spend on a guy I’ve only been seeing for a little while” dilemma. Plus, the money we save can be used to splurge on ourselves. We’re single and we’re allowed to be selfish, goddammit!
Where have I been? I’ve been busy living life, and you know what? It’s been bloody great.
Admittedly, despite me saying that I was going to keep on blogging but with a slightly different vibe… it hasn’t quite worked out like that. I thought that my ‘dating break’ wouldn’t affect my blogging, but it totally has. The less time I’ve spent on dating sites and on Twitter… the more the urgency to write blog posts has dwindled.
I’ve been busy doing the things I love the do. I’ve been socialising with friends, I’ve been planning holidays (since my last blog post I’ve been to Paris, I’m going to Madrid next month and I’ve already booked a Caribbean trip for next year), working hard (I’ve started a new job) and I’ve been spending quality time with my family.
I can’t say I’ve missed trawling dating sites for dates. I can’t say I’ve missed it one bit. In fact, although I’ve made conscious efforts to date in other ways (more on that another time), I’ve really enjoyed not feeling like I’m flogging it to death all for the sake of having something to write about.