Over the past year or so, I’ve come across people on Twitter who seem to think that this is all I do. They seem to think that I spend 24 hours a day thinking/complaining/whining about being single and fantasising about how to meet Mr Right. But hey, guess what? I really don’t.
Just because you see me tweet or blog about these things, please don’t get it twisted and think that in my everyday life I have a ‘woe-is-me’ attitude and can’t focus on anything else other than the fact I am single.
I’ve had strangers on Twitter tell me that the reason I am single is because I write about it all of the time and that maybe if I don’t want to be single, I should shift my focus. Well, I should point out to those people that I have been blogging (on and off) for under two years now whereas I’ve been single for a whoooole lot longer that that… so err, NO.
Blaming the fact that I’m single on the fact I blog about dating is ridiculous. My love life was disastrous way before I started writing about it, which is kind of how this whole thing started in the first place. Writing about this part of my life is a fun hobby. I repeat, it is FUN and it is a HOBBY but, I do have a life. I have a real life that consists of friends, family, a job, a lovely home, trips to bars/restaurants/cinemas, trips abroad – you name it, I do it. I’m adventurous and outgoing and contrary to what some people may think, I’m not sat at home day in and day out, rocking back and forth in the corner desperately trawling dating websites.
To prove my point, some would be surprised to know that the majority of people in my life don’t even know I write a dating blog and that many of my co-workers don’t even know that I’m single! As well as tweeting as The Single Filez blogger, I also have a personal Twitter that’s been around for a lot longer. On that Twitter I tweet about everyday topics – music, film, TV shows, travel, my profession etc whereas The Single Filez Twitter is a side outlet for all things ‘singledom-related’. YES it is part of me but NO it’s not all of me.
So yeah, I just wanted to get that out there for those readers/Twitter followers who picture me as some saddo with nothing else to do other than sit at home concocting new ways to meet/approach men. Don’t get me wrong, yes I do sometimes think about finding new ways to meet/approach men BUT not all of the time – life is way too short for that!
P.S. – Speaking of new ways to meet men; apart from being approached by a 46 year old man (my search preference is 30-40 yrs), DoingSomething really isn’t ‘doing anything’ for me at the mo. However, please do watch this space because some exciting plans are definitely afoot!