I haven’t had a guest blogger since my one year blogaversary week of international guest posts back in April. It’s been a long time coming but the timing on this one couldn’t be any more perfect. To combat all of the anti-dating talk I’ve been doing lately, here’s the lovely Liz from We Love Dates sharing her story…
The very lovely Liz from We Love Dates.
We at We Love Dates love Ms. Single Filez and her blog. When I found out she wasn’t so much loving the dates right now, I completely sympathized. I am the editor for a dating website for the love of god, I am supposed to LOVE DATES. However, it wasn’t always like that.
Last year around this time, I took a break from dating. I removed all my online dating profiles, and deleted a bunch of numbers from my phone. I was burned out, and completely over it. After meeting man after man, I was losing faith in the male species. Dating wasn’t making me feel good, and life is hard enough.
After yesterday’s post from Simone of Skinny Dip in Toronto, today it’s time for me to head back home to London and bring my international guest blogger tour to a close with a post from The Hopeful Romantic. The lovely lady behind The Hopeful Romantic is yet another blogger who I’ve become friends with thanks to Twitter. I mean, hey, we’re two Londoners (I’m not a true Londoner, but ya get what I mean) in amongst a very ‘North American heavy’ dating blogger community – it’s only right we bond by occasionally getting together for cocktails/dinner/partying every once in a while, right? 😉
Becoming A Hopeful Romantic
I was heartbroken.
After weeks of alternating between crying, exercising obsessively or lying in my bed staring at the ceiling I was desperate for some sort of change. I needed to make some sort of sense of all of thoughts rushing around in my head so I started to write. And write. And write – about how I was feeling, about the dreams that I had had…about all of the things that I had meant to say to him that I had never got to and probably now never would.
My Blackberry became my constant companion and as such I would – at a moment – grab it and type down my thoughts …I wrote very little some days. Some days a lot. Some days not at all. The writing didn’t minimise the tears or the sense of loss…but it was cathartic.
Yesterday’s post by New York’s Single City Guy was from a city close to my heart and, interestingly, it was the first EVER guest post by a man on The Single Filez! Today’s guest post also takes me to another city that is very close to my heart. Toronto aka T.O. aka The T-Dot is somewhere I call my second home. Half of my family live there and I’ve been going there since I was 11 years old, so in a way, I consider myself an honourary Torontonian. Today’s international guest blogger is extra- special because I’ve met her, like really, in the flesh! The last time I was in the T. Dot we met up, we ate pizza and we drank many (many) tasty Martinis. We had an absolute blast and now I’m happy to say I’ve got a new friend to add to my little black book of who to call when my plane touches down at Toronto’s Lester B Pearson airport. Today’s international guest blogger is…. Simone of Skinny Dip!
Coming out & Owning it
When The Single Filez approached me to write this guest post, she asked me to speak about what its like to be “out” as a blogger in the dating/relationship/sex blogging community. So, I’m here today to talk a little bit about anonymity online, or lack thereof.
After chillin’ over on the west coast in LA with a post by Single Girl Blogging, today I head over to the east coast of the US and make it (literally by the skin of my teeth) to my favourite city in the whole wide world – New York City. Now, y’all should already know about my obsession with NYC. There was no way I would do an international guest blogger tour and not stop off in the Big Apple.
Todays blogger has the honour of being the only male in this week’s line up. I’d go as far as saying that he’s a pretty lucky guy to be in the company of such wonderful women. Anyway, with no further ado, I introduce to you… Single City Guy!
Thoughts of an NYC Dating Blogger
There’s plenty of complexity, to being an anonymous, male, dating blogger. Each segment of the title sparks conversation, conflict, and decisions; all creating a unique and interesting classification. A dating blogger may inspire images of Carrie from Sex in the City, when the reality is the opposite. In reality, being a dating blogger doesn’t provide wealth; you won’t become rich unless you sell a book (or movie rights). While monetary wealth in running a dating blog isn’t often seen, but there’s potential wealth the content, my prospective. For me, it’s the male prospective. Date blogging isn’t a journal of my personal experiences, it’s about providing a deep thought into the prospective of dating, especially from the male point of view. I’ve found, there’s more wealth in my insight, not exclusively for the reader, but for myself.