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Mr Unavailable: The Gospel According To Natalie Lue

4 Jan

I first came close to writing about Natalie Lue – of Baggage Reclaim fame – back in October 2010 when I attended her ‘Mr Unavailable’ workshop in central London.  But now, a little over a year later, I’m very proud to say that Natalie’s teachings about the dangers of the dreaded Mr Unavailable are now available in print for all to buy.

About Natalie. I’ve known her via Twitter for a little while now and I have also met her twice in real life. I can honestly say that not only is this woman an absolute sweetheart, but she is also extremely wise. I don’t know how’s she done it, but Natalie has taken her personal experiences and observations and parlayed them into a full time job AND a book deal to boot!

If you haven’t checked out the Baggage Reclaim website, you don’t follow Natalie on Twitter or haven’t even seen her pearls of wisdom about “assclowns” (her word, not mine) when she comments on my blog posts please do have a read of a few of my favourite excerpts from her first published (there have been ebooks previously) book – Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl.

“While I’ve educated many thousands of people on the perils of unavailable relationships and what healthy, committed relationships look like, this is also a journey in recognising that if you can’t date with your self-esteem in tow, you need to stop dating until you can. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl will help you to stop being a passenger in shady, depleting relationships and stop treating these broken men like they’re messiahs while you’re someone who has to clamour around them for crumbs of attention, affection, and hints of commitment. These crumbs don’t become loaves and will leave you hungry for a real relationship. I want you to read this book and recognise that you need the loaf, a whole load and nothing but the loaf.

Pursuing or having relationships with Mr Unavailable is symbolic of your need to learn to love yourself more and to set some boundaries and have better standards.”

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Book Review: Michelle Cove’s ‘Seeking Happily Ever After’

25 Oct

Even before I started reading Seeking Happily Ever After, I already knew that the author of the book spoke my language.  Michelle Cove wrote a guest post for me during the SingleWomenRule.com blog crawl back in September and after reading Michelle’s blog crawl post – The Real Price of a Relationship – I knew that she was an author I could relate to. Michelle’s post spoke to me on a personal level. What with me being the independent single woman who has achieved everything on my own; including leaving my hometown to move to the big smoke, surviving alone in a big city, building a career, securing a mortgage and going on regular (sometimes solo) holidays. I’m the archetypal “I’m-the-one-used-to-being-in-control-of-everything-in-my-own-life” sort of chick.

So if Michelle was able to sum me up in one amazing blog post, what would it be like to read her whole book? I wanted to love the book because having had several email conversations with Michelle, I think she rocks – BIG TIME. However, upon reading, I found that while I loved her delivery, her tone of voice and her ability to read like an encouraging girlfriend giving me advice over Sunday brunch; it didn’t feel as though the booked was as ‘aimed at me’ as I was hoping it would be.

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Book Review: Lori Gottlieb’s ‘Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr Good Enough’

23 Jul

A couple of months ago I wrote about what I’ve since learnt is a hot topic for lots of single women today, the ongoing internal battle on whether to settle for Mr Good Enough or to keep on searching for the notorious ‘Mr Right’.

Waiting for Mr Perfect…

In the post I referred to Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr Good Enough, a book by Lori Gottlieb and as promised, I bought the book and had a good read of it whilst I was away on my solo adventure.

The book features Lori exploring a major issue that faces women today – how you do deal with having a strong desire for a husband and family but at the same time not wanting to settle for anything less than the perfect man? Lori believes that single women everywhere need to stop chasing the much sought after Mr Perfect and instead opt for Mr Good Enough.

Book blurb: You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven’t found The One just yet. Surely he’ll come along, right? But what if he doesn’t? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn’t realize it?

I enjoyed reading the book but while it did make an interesting read, I was slightly surprised to discover that I disagreed with a lot of of what Lori was saying. Mainly for two reasons: firstly, because I’m not on a huge mission to get married. I don’t know why but, even though I do love a good wedding, I personally don’t see marriage as on the cards for me (maybe a subject for another blog post?). Also because secondly, unlike a number of female case studies in the book, I’ve never experienced having that ‘good enough’ guy who I stupidly dumped to go in pursuit of Mr Perfect. I’ve never actually ‘had’ anyone. *Insert sad smiley face here*. However, those main two factors aside, there were quite a few parts of the book that struck a chord.

Here are some of my favourite passages from “Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr Good Enough”. Passages I feel echo my own personal thoughts, feelings and experiences. Or ones that at least got me thinking:

Whether we admit it or not, being single is often lonely, especially by the time we reach our mid-thirties and many of our friends are busy with families of their own.

So many women say they’d rather be alone than settle, but then they’re alone and miserable – and still holding out for the same unrealistic standards. They assume their soul mate will appear and it will have been worth the wait. Then they’re blindsided and shocked when that doesn’t happen. And it’s too late

Women never want what’s available. If they can’t find the perfect guy at thirty, they move on to find something better. But they don’t learn from this. Even if they’re still alone five years later, they get pickier.

I’d always heard that dating gets harder the older you get, but I’d never really taken it seriously before. I didn’t consider that one decision – say, passing up a good guy because “something was missing” – could change the course of my life forever.

The conclusion I came to is that Lori’s saying ‘Mr Perfect’ doesn’t actually exist and who you think might be ‘Mr Good Enough’ could actually be ‘Mr Right’ in disguise. Definitely worth bearing in mind and, definitely worth a read.

Marry Him: The Case For Settling For Mr Good Enough by Lori Gottlieb is available from all good book outlets.