With only one month of my three month eHarmony subscription left, the race is now on to see if I can get a date (or at least have an exciting conversation) using what is supposed to be one of the world’s most succesful dating websites. While I wasn’t too keen on the idea of a paid-for website, I’d heard lots of good things about it from other people so was excited to give it a go. I mean, what sort of dating blogger would I be if I hadn’t even experienced the dating giant know as eHarmony? Unfortunately, I’m sad to say that after two months, it’s just not working for me.
Me, when checking my eHarmony 'matches'
I went through ‘guided communication‘ with a nice-enough guy the first week I joined. I found the guided communication process to be long and tedious and to top it off, there wasn’t even a conversation at the end of it! Since then, I regularly check the matches they select for me but to no avail. The past couple of months have pretty much consisted of me saying “really, they think that we’re a match?” – just because I like watching TV, keeping my home clean and orderly and reading newspapers, it does not mean that any man who does the same is a good romantic match for me. Also the past two months have had me doing a lot of internal screaming whenever I check my matches and discover yet another blank photo with the words “request my photo” across it. I have a selection of pics up, why are they so special that they think people need to specially request to see theirs? Grrrr! It’s also very annoying to send a message to a suggested match when it turns out they haven’t logged on for three weeks and most likely no longer have a valid membership. Fail, fail, fail.
Just over three weeks ago I decided I needed to ramp up my search and so decided to actually PAY for a dating website. I knew that if I was going to part with my hard-earned cash, I should go for eHarmony, one of the reputed best. Problem is, it’s nearly a month into my three month membership and I’m yet to find it enjoyable.
I’m guilty of having been slightly addicted to lesser dating sites in the past and I’ve now come to the conclusion that it’s because other dating sites are similar to man catalogues (if such things existed) and eHarmony isn’t. Unlike other dating sites, eHarmony doesn’t let me browse through pages and pages of men. It doesn’t give me the opportunity to flick through photo after photo to see who catches my eye. eHarmony is a site that does the picking on my behalf, which means I only get to see who they put in front of me. So far that has meant I haven’t come across many guys I find physically attractive.
To Pay Or Not To Pay… now, that is the question.
Paying for dating sites is a dilemma I’ve been faced with recently. As you may have noticed its not something I like to do. I had a free three month trial on My Single Friend last year and recently had a free week’s Lovestruck.com trial (ah, the perks of a dating blogger), but other than that I’ve spent most of my time on free dating website Plenty of Fish, which for the sake of my sanity, I recently decided to call it quits.
Money talks: Is paying to get dates the only way forward?
Call me cheap if you like, but personally, I like to think of it that I just prefer to spend my hard earned cash on other things. Saving up for holidays, buying clothes, eating out at nice restaurants, socialising with my friends… now that’s the stuff I don’t mind spending my money on.