Believe it or not, there’s a whole lot more to me than what you see on here on the blog, on Twitter or on Facebook.
Over the past year or so, I’ve come across people on Twitter who seem to think that this is all I do. They seem to think that I spend 24 hours a day thinking/complaining/whining about being single and fantasising about how to meet Mr Right. But hey, guess what? I really don’t.
Trying to find love is just one of many things I juggle...
Just because you see me tweet or blog about these things, please don’t get it twisted and think that in my everyday life I have a ‘woe-is-me’ attitude and can’t focus on anything else other than the fact I am single.
I’ve had strangers on Twitter tell me that the reason I am single is because I write about it all of the time and that maybe if I don’t want to be single, I should shift my focus. Well, I should point out to those people that I have been blogging (on and off) for under two years now whereas I’ve been single for a whoooole lot longer that that… so err, NO.
So get this… I haven’t been on a date in over five months and my dating life sucks balls (mind you, even when I was actively dating… my dating life still sucked balls) but for some reason, people actually want to speak to me about DATING and even consider me to be some sort of authority on the subject. Crazy huh?
Well, even though I don’t seem to be too great at doing the whole dating thing, if there is one thing I can do, it’s talk about it. A lot.
Click Tonight... all about the partaaays
So, when I was approached by Click Tonight, the UK’s leading Party Dating website, and asked to talk about my life and experiences being a single girl in London – I figured, who was I to say no? Click Tonight is a cross between social networking and dating and definitely a site I’ll be looking at more in the future but, for now, if you’re remotely interested in hearing a bit of gossip, reading about the best (and worst) date I’ve ever been on and also my advice to the newly single and fabulous… head on over to the Click Tonight blog by clicking HERE and have a read.
It’s been awhile since I last went on a date. After East End Boy last August I needed a break. I was tired of the dating merry go round but, even more tired of discovering that whenever I liked a guy (even just a little bit), he’d always turn out to be of the douchebag variety.
It’s been five date free months and although I’m still not totally convinced that online dating is the way forward for me, I’ve decided its time to try get myself back out there again. It’s no secret that I’d prefer to meet a guy the ‘old-fashioned way’ (through friends, at the gym, at a bar/shopping centre/through work… anything) but it doesn’t happen that way for me anymore. It really doesn’t.
I figured it would be good to spice things up a bit by checking out new dating sites to try. The search for the ideal site that I like/can get decent dates from/not receive ridiculous idiotic messages on, continues. First up in 2012 is (drum roll…) DoingSomething.co.uk.
DoingSomething is actually a pretty cool looking site. It’s colourful, vibrant and fun plus I love the way it talks to me in a down-to-earth friendly tone of voice. The site is based on the idea that dating can be awkward and a bit dull – it’s always the same old, let’s go for a drink in a bar type thing. The goal is to change this by encouraging people to meet up and literally do something together – go for a scenic walk, attend a wine tasting class, go to a comedy show etc. Nice concept, right?
I first came close to writing about Natalie Lue – of Baggage Reclaim fame – back in October 2010 when I attended her ‘Mr Unavailable’ workshop in central London. But now, a little over a year later, I’m very proud to say that Natalie’s teachings about the dangers of the dreaded Mr Unavailable are now available in print for all to buy.
About Natalie. I’ve known her via Twitter for a little while now and I have also met her twice in real life. I can honestly say that not only is this woman an absolute sweetheart, but she is also extremely wise. I don’t know how’s she done it, but Natalie has taken her personal experiences and observations and parlayed them into a full time job AND a book deal to boot!
If you haven’t checked out the Baggage Reclaim website, you don’t follow Natalie on Twitter or haven’t even seen her pearls of wisdom about “assclowns” (her word, not mine) when she comments on my blog posts please do have a read of a few of my favourite excerpts from her first published (there have been ebooks previously) book – Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl.
“While I’ve educated many thousands of people on the perils of unavailable relationships and what healthy, committed relationships look like, this is also a journey in recognising that if you can’t date with your self-esteem in tow, you need to stop dating until you can. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl will help you to stop being a passenger in shady, depleting relationships and stop treating these broken men like they’re messiahs while you’re someone who has to clamour around them for crumbs of attention, affection, and hints of commitment. These crumbs don’t become loaves and will leave you hungry for a real relationship. I want you to read this book and recognise that you need the loaf, a whole load and nothing but the loaf.
Pursuing or having relationships with Mr Unavailable is symbolic of your need to learn to love yourself more and to set some boundaries and have better standards.”