DoingSomething, Different?

17 Jan

It’s been awhile since I last went on a date. After East End Boy last August I needed a break. I was tired of the dating merry go round but, even more tired of  discovering that whenever I liked a guy (even just a little bit), he’d always turn out to be of the douchebag variety.

It’s been five date free months and although I’m still not totally convinced that online dating is the way forward for me, I’ve decided its time to try get myself back out there again. It’s no secret that I’d prefer to meet a guy the ‘old-fashioned way’ (through friends, at the gym, at a bar/shopping centre/through work… anything) but it doesn’t happen that way for me anymore. It really doesn’t.

I figured it would be good to spice things up a bit by checking out new dating sites to try.  The search for the ideal site that I like/can get decent dates from/not receive ridiculous idiotic messages on, continues. First up in 2012 is (drum roll…) DoingSomething.co.uk.

DoingSomething is actually a pretty cool looking site. It’s colourful, vibrant and fun plus I love the way it talks to me in a down-to-earth friendly tone of voice. The site is based on the idea that dating can be awkward and a bit dull – it’s always the same old, let’s go for a drink in a bar type thing. The goal is  to change this  by encouraging people to meet up and literally do something together – go for a scenic walk, attend a wine tasting class, go to a comedy show etc. Nice concept, right?

Unfortunately, nice concept aside, it’s not going too well so far. My first thoughts include;

  • There doesn’t seem to be too many guys. I keep seeing the same profiles over and over again. Literally every time I log in I see the same faces as before
  • There are lots of guys who haven’t updated their profile in ages – each person’s profile contains a selection of date ideas and the plan is that you find someone who likes to do the same things you do. Problem is, I keep coming across profiles  with date suggestions that haven’t been updated in 2/3 months. Doesn’t necessarily mean the guy hasn’t logged on, but it sure does makes the profile look inactive
  • You can’t see when others are online. It leaves you wondering if anyone is actually out there. It feels like a solitary experience and not very interactive at all, speaking of which…
  • I set up my profile a little over a month go and so far I’m averaging one view a week.  Not that I’m big headed, but only five views in five weeks? But honestly, is anyone actually out there??
  • It doesn’t automatically remember my search settings. Every time I log in I have to specify what I’m looking for. The search function always resets itself to ‘women between the age of 18 to 18’ which has already led to some embarrassing mistakes –

I may, or may not, have accidentally searched for women...

So yeah, my first impression of the site is a bit ‘meh’. I think because I like the concept and also the way the site looks, that I was expecting more. Granted, its a fairly new site and I’m sure it’s growing and developing all of the time. Also, I’m aware I need to be more proactive and ‘like’ dates ideas too, but I think I need to put in the extra time to find fresh profiles that tickle my fancy.

I’ll keep plodding on because I’m keen to see how it goes. I plan to do another review in a month or so and hopefully by then I’ll have more positives to share.

Until then… watch this space!

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18 Responses to “DoingSomething, Different?”

  1. Sparky January 17, 2012 at 11:31 AM #

    Good luck!

  2. my honest answer January 17, 2012 at 11:37 AM #

    That does look like a great site – both the idea and the design! Like you say, it might just take a while to get a decent following… nothign like blazing the trail!

    • TheSingleFilez January 17, 2012 at 1:34 PM #

      You’re so right! Who knows what it will be like in a years time?

  3. Sew Tired January 17, 2012 at 12:55 PM #

    Hmm, I really like the concept and design of doingsomething, and was signed up for a short free period. I’ve hidden my profile for the last few months as there seemed to be no way of telling what the other person was looking for (so made it hard to make first contact), and I got fed up of only having scary-looking older guys look me up or message me. Plus, I would have to be in Central London to do any of the activities 😦

    (It’s a shame as my profile was really good :P)

    I think it needs to be more friendship-based, perhaps like OKCupid, as I’m sure I could make female friends who share the same interests, rather than find anyone to date on there (the whole, ‘is looking for a man to do something with’ tagline etc grates hugely!).

    Good luck and keep us posted!

    xx

    • TheSingleFilez January 17, 2012 at 1:40 PM #

      You’ve reminded me of something I forgot to put in the blog post – the annoyingly minimal profile information. Like you said, it means there’s no way of telling what the other person is looking for. I understand what they’re trying to do but it doesn’t give much away, at all.

      I’ll be sure to keep you posted 😉

    • matt January 17, 2012 at 3:35 PM #

      Hey Sew Tired.
      Matt here – one of the founders of DoingSomething.
      Thanks for your kind words about the concept and design.

      We’re a new-ish site so we’re always learning and improving.
      Can you mail me from the site – I’ve DM’d you on Twitter.

      It would be great to go through your feedback in more detail then where possible we’ll add it into the site and make it better.

      Thanking you.

      Matt.

      • Sew Tired January 18, 2012 at 12:25 AM #

        Hey Matt,

        Have emailed you an entire report, pretty much; if it proves useful I hope there’s a free site code or better still a cup of tea in it at the very least! 😀

        (PS Dude; how did you find my Twitter handle?? It’s not listed here! #freaky)

  4. Anita Busby January 17, 2012 at 1:10 PM #

    The main thing is your putting yourself out there and trying new things. Good luck doll! This is your year.. 😉

    • TheSingleFilez January 22, 2012 at 1:08 PM #

      Thanks Anita! You know me, always trying to put myself out there 🙂

  5. Roxanne January 17, 2012 at 1:16 PM #

    Good luck. Thanks for sharing. I may have to actually do the online thing, too. I guess maybe I can think of it as something to cross off my bucket list. Not quite ready yet though. I hope things go well and that you keep sharing.

    • TheSingleFilez January 22, 2012 at 1:09 PM #

      Hey Roxanne. Thanks for reading. Yeah, the online thing isn’t as daunting as you may think. You’re already active with regards to communicating with people on the internet… its just one step further. Hope you give it a try!

  6. The Great Date Guide (@GreatDateGuide) January 18, 2012 at 12:47 PM #

    Really interesting review… agree with you that it’s a great concept for a dating site though!

    • TheSingleFilez January 22, 2012 at 1:10 PM #

      Thanks Mary. I agree, a great concept. I think that because they’re new, they just need to iron out a few kinks and get more members, and then it’ll be even more great!

  7. Zabrinah's Love Blog January 19, 2012 at 12:56 AM #

    Nice! I was just thinking of starting online dating as well! I’ve never tried it, and I don’t intend to until March. But, it’s been lingering in the back of my mind. I feel like it would be a helpful thing to have at least experienced the online dating world.

    DoingSomething seems like a really cool site. If only I lived in the UK. But alas, I do not.

    I keep pushing off the online dating thing for a very vain reason. Suppose I do meet a nice guy and we become a serious couple? When people ask, “How’d you two meet?”, we’d have no choice but to say, “Eharmony.com” or something. That’s only sounds cute in the commercials. I don’t know if you get a response of “Awwww, that’s so sweet” in real life.

    Looking forward to hearing about your dating adventures!

    Yours truly,

    ~Zabrinah

    [your everyday girl, writing about guys]

    • TheSingleFilez January 22, 2012 at 1:16 PM #

      Hi Zabrinah. Thanks for reading.

      I don’t think the stigma of meeting someone via online dating is as bad as it used to be. In this day and age we do everything online – booking vacations, grocery and clothes shopping, banking, socialising, watching TV etc – why is it so ‘out there’ to consider that we can’t meet someone special online too?

      I’ve met so many people that I’ve clicked with over the years thanks sites such as Myspace, Facebook and Twitter: both males and females who I have become friends with in the offline world as well as the online world. Therefore, why can’t I meet a man who I romantically click with via the internet? It’s totally possible and I know so many people who have married/moved in with/had long term relationships with people they’ve met via the net.

      Go on, give it a try. You never know…. 😉

  8. Jen January 31, 2012 at 11:54 AM #

    Looks like a good site & I like the idea that people can do something other than the usual together – but it kind of reminds me of Take Me Out when they go away and get forced to do things…. usually water based, that just leaves their make-up ruined and making a fool of themselves! Lol. Sounds good though, looking forward to hearing about the fun dates if you give it a go! x

    • TheSingleFilez February 2, 2012 at 1:17 PM #

      Hey Jen

      Thanks for reading and thanks for being the first person to mention the awesomeness that is Take Me Out on my blog. How I’ve not written about that show yet I have no idea – love it!

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