Mr Unavailable: The Gospel According To Natalie Lue

4 Jan

I first came close to writing about Natalie Lue – of Baggage Reclaim fame – back in October 2010 when I attended her ‘Mr Unavailable’ workshop in central London.  But now, a little over a year later, I’m very proud to say that Natalie’s teachings about the dangers of the dreaded Mr Unavailable are now available in print for all to buy.

About Natalie. I’ve known her via Twitter for a little while now and I have also met her twice in real life. I can honestly say that not only is this woman an absolute sweetheart, but she is also extremely wise. I don’t know how’s she done it, but Natalie has taken her personal experiences and observations and parlayed them into a full time job AND a book deal to boot!

If you haven’t checked out the Baggage Reclaim website, you don’t follow Natalie on Twitter or haven’t even seen her pearls of wisdom about “assclowns” (her word, not mine) when she comments on my blog posts please do have a read of a few of my favourite excerpts from her first published (there have been ebooks previously) book – Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl.

“While I’ve educated many thousands of people on the perils of unavailable relationships and what healthy, committed relationships look like, this is also a journey in recognising that if you can’t date with your self-esteem in tow, you need to stop dating until you can. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl will help you to stop being a passenger in shady, depleting relationships and stop treating these broken men like they’re messiahs while you’re someone who has to clamour around them for crumbs of attention, affection, and hints of commitment. These crumbs don’t become loaves and will leave you hungry for a real relationship. I want you to read this book and recognise that you need the loaf, a whole load and nothing but the loaf.

Pursuing or having relationships with Mr Unavailable is symbolic of your need to learn to love yourself more and to set some boundaries and have better standards.”

Reading this book often left me wondering if Natalie has been secretly spying on me. Like, HOW DOES SHE KNOW?

Another section of the book that hits a more than a little too close to home were the parts where she talks about ‘Future Fakers’  and ‘Fast Forwarders’. Remember ‘The One I Thought Could Be The One’ trilogy? Classic case of me falling for a future faker/fast forwarder. Problem is, I’ve dated more of those guys than I’d like to admit.

Future Faker definition: “A Future Faker, via actions and words, gives you the impression of a future so that they can get what they want in the present. The make veiled or even direct references to things like marriage, babies, moving in together, going on holiday, being together the following year and other such things that imply that you’re a part of their life.”

Fast Forwarder definition: “Fast Forwarding in itself is a form of Future Faking and it refers to when someone sweeps you up in a tide of intensity

Pick up a copy of Mr Unavailable & The Fallback Girl by Natalie Lue  on

2 Responses to “Mr Unavailable: The Gospel According To Natalie Lue”

  1. Natalie January 5, 2012 at 11:04 AM #

    Thanks for sharing and welcome back…however long it’s for! Happy new year! When you sort out your end of things, you’ll find that you won’t be swept up in things any longer and will think it’s odd when they do this stuff so early so you’ll recognise the warning signs. I’m still keeping my eye out for you for a possible date 😉

    • TheSingleFilez January 6, 2012 at 11:03 PM #

      Here’s hoping! And yay to you keeping an eye out for me. Sounds like a plan 😉

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