Nice, But Nothing Special…

10 Jul

This year hasn’t been too great for me as far as dates have been concerned. There was Lovestruck Guy, who I met at a singles event and went out with just once before he turned into a weird-ass Bug A Boo.  There was also the guy my friend set me up with, who was nice enough but acted like one date was the equivalent to us having already been together for one year. When he tried to put one of my rings on my wedding finger, I knew I was entering into stage five clinger territory and couldn’t get him out of there fast enough.

With those recent experiences under my belt, you can totally understand me not having the desire (or energy) to date for awhile. However, as mentioned in my last  couple of blog posts, I’m feeling refreshed and raring to go again.  Here’s the first date of (hopefully) many in summer 2011…

Who Is He?
On his Plenty of Fish profile it says he’s in the Emergency Services but it wasn’t until we’d been speaking for day or two that I found out he was actually a Fireman. Cue a friend calling him “The Emergency Servicer” because boy, I need servicing and yes it’s getting to the emergency stage too (ahem).

Although The Emergency Servicer is a genius name, I think for the sake of the blog, I’ll stick to calling him “The Fireman”.

The Positives
– Via our online conversations we discovered that we had music taste in common. It may not sound like a big deal, but the fact I don’t often come across white guys who are into (or even know about) Chico Debarge, Joe, Floetry and Musiq Soulchild – he stood out right away.

– He likes to travel too. Lucky bastard is off to Las Vegas next month and then Jamaica in September.

The Negatives
– I was attracted to The Fireman in his main profile pic. The other five, not so much. (Don’t you hate when that happens?)

– He’s divorced. Not the end of the world, but still a new one for me.

The Date

Bored of blah dates? Girl, I feel your pain.

The actual date was nice enough. We met for a drink at a local bar. Conversation was good. We had things in common. Apart from the fact that from the very moment we met he kept touching me, it was quite an enjoyable  couple of hours.

Sidenote: I absolutely love being touchy feely with a guy when I’m seeing him BUT I’m precious about my personal space when I don’t know someone. Don’t even get me started about how I feel about strangers touching me on public transport!

Overall, The Fireman was nice but for some annoying reason, I just didn’t feel excited about him. I’ll hang out with him again (he’s already asked) because I didn’t hate his company and because a second date is  always a good idea to be sure, right?

P.S. The reason this post took so long to write was simply because I didn’t feel motivated. It’s the same thing over and over again. Either I go on dates and the guys are complete and utter weirdos/morons OR I go on dates and they’re nice enough but don’t get me excited. I’m bored of it now. I’m wondering how long I can keep doing this and not meet anyone with potential? Someone I can get excited about. This used to happen but it hasn’t happened to me since I started blogging. A coincidence?

13 Responses to “Nice, But Nothing Special…”

  1. trininista July 10, 2011 at 12:16 PM #

    I know how you feel. I really needed to take a break from it cause the dates were all cookie cutter and not a good batch of cookies either. lol.Maybe the second date will have a spark…who knows?

    • TheSingleFilez July 10, 2011 at 1:14 PM #

      That’s what I keep telling myself whenever I go on second dates with guys who didn’t blow me away on the first one.

      Sometimes I’ve gotten in as deep as six dates, just because the guy was nice and I was still waiting for that spark to appear…


      • P July 10, 2011 at 5:28 PM #

        A friend of a friend was telling me a story about a 1st date disaster, they both had great chemistry on line and on the phone, but when they met it was so-so they both were over dressed and trying to hard, they ended up going on a second date mainly because they got on so well on line and over the phone. On the second date neither really tried too hard, both came casual and they were more relaxed as they thought it would be more of a friendship.. they’ve now been married for a year. imagine if they hadn’t gone on that second date. Go on a second date, maybe it might turn out that you’ll be mates, maybe not.. if you do become “just friends” he may have some cute fireman friends

        • TheSingleFilez July 10, 2011 at 9:08 PM #

          Oh, absolutely. If the first date wasn’t a complete and utter disaster, I’m a big believer in going on the second date just to make sure.

          Thanks for reading!

  2. justmewith July 10, 2011 at 5:28 PM #

    I find it helpful to read about even the boring dates. I guess a second date would be helpful. Similar music tastes is a great way to start. I decided not to do the online thing or anything right now, concentrating on getting myself out more, by myself or with kids or friends. Then, we’ll see.

    • TheSingleFilez July 10, 2011 at 9:11 PM #

      Yes second dates are always helpful when you’ve had a first date but end up not feeling strongly either way.

      Sometimes someone might be nervous on the first date and the real them might shine through second time around. Or maybe something might just ‘click’ that didn’t click before.

      At least that’s what I hope for, anyway!

  3. Miss Daydream July 10, 2011 at 8:01 PM #

    Totally know what you mean about the blah dates, but still, a fireman – that’s got to be worth a second date on its own, hasn’t it? 😉

    • TheSingleFilez July 10, 2011 at 9:12 PM #

      Very true! And, not a bad looking fireman either 🙂

  4. shouldhaveputaringonit July 11, 2011 at 2:38 PM #

    I wish I had your tenacity to keep trying. All too often I’ve had a pretty dull first date and just given in.

    I did go on another date with someone I didn’t really click with even though he was very quiet and the conversation was led by me for the most part.

    I decided after the second date that it wasn’t worth a third.

    • TheSingleFilez July 11, 2011 at 11:45 PM #

      It’s all down to this blog! Believe you me, I wouldn’t have done half the things I’ve done over the year if I hadn’t started this blog.

      Blogging makes me make more of an effort. I haven’t quite figured out if that’s a good thing or a bad thing yet 😉

  5. eSkimO July 12, 2011 at 9:34 PM #

    You need a bad boy in your life.

    • TheSingleFilez July 17, 2011 at 2:11 PM #

      Nah, bad boys are so 1990’s for me. Grew out of them a long time ago! What I need a ‘nice guy with an edge’ ;-p

  6. Dazediva July 12, 2011 at 11:11 PM #

    I know exactly how you feel right now !
    I just got home from a 3rd date with a surgeon and whilst he’s really nice – I’m not really ‘feeling’ it *sigh* ..

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