Bug-A-Boo Part 2: Still Bugging

27 Feb

Remember Lovestruck Guy aka Bug-a-boo? Well,  even though I sent him a ‘goodbye, good luck’ text on the 5th February, it didn’t end there. Here I am, at the end of February and I’m writing about him again. Just to refresh your memory, here’s a recap on how it went last time around:

Saturday morning text  from him, “Greetings! How were last nights drinks? Hopefully you busted some more dance moves”. A few hours later, before I got around to responding,“Hey there! What have you got planned for tomorrow?”. My reply was, “Not sure if you remember, but last week I told you I was having a friend over for the weekend? Yep, so I’ll be with her tomorrow.”

This wasn’t the first time he’d asked me what I was doing although I’d already told him on our date (did I mention we only had the ONE date?)  that I had plans. He was doing my head in. I needed to put an end to his constant bugging. I sent a follow up text, “To be honest, I think we should leave it here. It feels like everyday I’ve had to explain what I’m doing and as mentioned to you last week Sunday I already had plans for this week, but yet you still keep asking what I’m doing. It’s too much for me! Good luck with your dating, take care”

Didn’t hear a thing from him for over 12 hours (hooray!) but the next day, out of the blue, I received the following text, “Just taking it easy. By the way how was that concert you went to?”


…And now to bring you up to speed. I ignored the text enquiring about my Usher concert. But four days later I got another random text from him,“Am in the mood to dance. What are you doing tonight mate?  Take it easy”. In the mood to dance? WTF, dude?  Now you’re just plain weird. My response? *insert tumbleweeds rolling across the desert*

So, what does he do? He calls me. Three days after telling me he was in the mood to dance, I receive a missed call from him. Funnily enough, he called while I was busy at the Get The Guy Women’s Weekend. I ignored the call. By this point I’m thinking something is seriously wrong. I already told the dude that I want to leave things. He never referred to this in any of his texts. Why was he completely ignoring what I’d said? Did he misread my text? Is he in denial? Or, is he just plain psycho? Four days later I hear from him again,  “Are you up to much tomorrow night buddy? Have fun”.

It’s not even amusing anymore. He’s actually pissing me the hell off. And why is he so damn weird? “Mate”? “Buddy”? GTFOHWTB! I ignore the text but it takes for me to get YET another missed call from him to realise that he’s not going away. I need to respond. So, I replied by re-sending the exact same ‘goodbye, good luck’ text I sent him two weeks ago.

It’s now been six days since I last heard from him, I’ve got my fingers (toes and eyes) crossed that he’s finally gotten the message…

*UPDATE*  On Marsh 28th, a month after I wrote this post, I received a text from Lovestruck Guy: “Hey there! Are you interested in going salsa dancing tomorrow night mate? Should be fun”. I didn’t respond. Today, April 3rd, I received a call from him which I ignored…


12 Responses to “Bug-A-Boo Part 2: Still Bugging”

  1. Charlotte February 27, 2011 at 6:04 PM #

    Good lord. I mean, really. What in the hell is wrong with this guy? I feel as though you laid it out as nicely as you possibly could very early on and that you sent the message loud and clear. But he’s just not getting it.

    If he calls/texts one more time, you just have to respond with the following: Please lose my number.

    Best of luck to you!

    PS: Where ARE the normal ones hanging out?!

    • TheSingleFilez March 1, 2011 at 9:00 PM #

      If you do manage to find out where the normal ones hang out, please do let me know 😉

  2. trininista February 27, 2011 at 6:12 PM #

    Wow. As I read this, I wondered to myself if he had like automated texts or something because this cannot be normal. lol.

    • TheSingleFilez March 1, 2011 at 9:01 PM #

      The frequency of the texts were weird, but the things he’d say were even weirder. Freak!

  3. Kim February 27, 2011 at 7:07 PM #

    Whoa, what a complete and utter psycho! I think there’s perseverance, then there’s just plain severing… to the head. This guy is definitely tapped. Lets hope that’s the last you hear from him!

  4. Sparky February 28, 2011 at 4:06 PM #

    Sounds like he’s never had a date before !! Maybe he lives in an attic and is only allowed out once a day!

    • TheSingleFilez March 1, 2011 at 9:03 PM #

      That’s the crazy thing. It’s not even like we’d known eachother for months… it was just ONE date. Scary, eh?

  5. Dazediva April 3, 2011 at 3:00 PM #

    It’s one thing to persist and pursue but to P&P after being blown off is just not cool. What a weirdo !! Seems like you made an impact on him and he’s just ignoring the big red flag that says ‘get lost’ on it !

    • TheSingleFilez April 3, 2011 at 9:47 PM #

      It’s been going on for a little while now. I don’t think he’s quite right in the head, a normal person would’ve stopped by now.

      It’s quite worrying really!

  6. somethingshedated April 24, 2011 at 8:34 PM #

    Now in this guy’s defense (though to be clear he’s either a. retarded or b. just pathetic…poor dude…imagine if we were like that…but for the grace of…something like that)…but technically…TECHNICALLY…you didn’t tell him to leave you alone.

    Now I know that seems obvious and implied to us…but after reading the responses I got to that post long ago about me and my interpretations of “what are you wearing” from a guy…I’m open to the possibility that guys and girls just don’t read things the same way.

    So here’s the thing. You said you wanted to “leave things” but in my younger days (see how I say it like that to make me think I wouldn’t think this now lol!) I would have thought…okay cool…they don’t want to date. Does that leave things open for friendship? No obvs in this case we (readers, me, anyone with half a brain) can see you’re not up for that…and though it’s likely he should too…his social in-tune-ness in obvs out of wack or he wouldn’t have contacted you a hundred times.

    So like I said…in this dude’s defence…you never really said piss off. Now I don’t think you need to say it quite like that…you may want to consider (or possibly for next time as this is from the end of Feb lol)…actually saying (texting) I am not interested. Please do not contact me anymore. Simple. Direct. Band-aid ripped. 🙂

    • TheSingleFilez April 25, 2011 at 12:54 PM #

      My bad for being ‘too nice’ and not blunt enough. I do find it difficult to let a guy know when I’m not interested. I would’ve thought the “I think we should leave it here…you still keep asking what I’m doing & it’s too much for me… good luck with your dating, take care” bits of the text would’ve drummed the message home but like you said, his social in-tune-ness was obviously out of wack!

      Thank goodness, I’ve not heard anything for awhile. But yes, a lesson learnt.

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